Daisy asks:
Some of my current favorites are: Game of Thrones, Doctor Who, Once Upon a Time, Fullmetal Alchemist, Shadowhunters, and The 100.
These are shows that I actually watch for the plot and the escapism. I also like things like Chopped, Property Brothers, and Stand-up Comedy. I don't really watch those for the plot, though!
As far as something to try in D/s... I can think of two.
One, is practicing our D/s more regularly. Sir and I had and have had multiple conversations on this. When he is not his best self, D/s goes out the window. He doesn't put the time or effort into it at all and it is extremely frustrating. Because I am still submitting. Following the rules and serving him. But I need more to be fulfilled, especially sexually. There are some women who are on and ready at the drop of a dime. I am not one of those women, and sometimes I wish I was. It is really frustrating. I need more. I need the mental component. I need anticipation and build-up and mental dominance. Throwing me down on the bed and spanking me won't always do it for me. I like it, sure. But without that mental component, I am not ready to take it to a sexual level. The physical without the mental seems so contrived to me that I find it really difficult to get into it. It's the same old routine each time, and I end up feeling like Sir is only doing certain physical things to try and get me horny, which makes me even less horny, if that makes sense. I would like him to plan a little more in advance so his dick isn't the only one in charge.
The other is knife play. There have been a few instances where a scissor, or wire cutters, or some kind of sharp edge has come out in the past year or so and I've been very very intrigued by it. I am thinking more and more about a real blade, feeling it across my skin and such. The potential mindfuck of knowing he could harm me, but also knowing he probably won't. But he could... The submission in opening myself up to him, being vulnerable to him in that way. I don't know if I want to be cut, exactly, but the thrill of knowing it could happen... that is what is on my mind.
Thanks for the questions, Daisy!
What's your favorite TV show, and what's something you want to try in D/s?
Picking a favorite TV show is so hard for me! Sir and I usually watch TV together after dinner. We're always a few seasons behind our favorites. If I can't pick a favorite show, I can at least pick a favorite genre, which would be Fantasy and Sci-fi.
Some of my current favorites are: Game of Thrones, Doctor Who, Once Upon a Time, Fullmetal Alchemist, Shadowhunters, and The 100.
These are shows that I actually watch for the plot and the escapism. I also like things like Chopped, Property Brothers, and Stand-up Comedy. I don't really watch those for the plot, though!
As far as something to try in D/s... I can think of two.
One, is practicing our D/s more regularly. Sir and I had and have had multiple conversations on this. When he is not his best self, D/s goes out the window. He doesn't put the time or effort into it at all and it is extremely frustrating. Because I am still submitting. Following the rules and serving him. But I need more to be fulfilled, especially sexually. There are some women who are on and ready at the drop of a dime. I am not one of those women, and sometimes I wish I was. It is really frustrating. I need more. I need the mental component. I need anticipation and build-up and mental dominance. Throwing me down on the bed and spanking me won't always do it for me. I like it, sure. But without that mental component, I am not ready to take it to a sexual level. The physical without the mental seems so contrived to me that I find it really difficult to get into it. It's the same old routine each time, and I end up feeling like Sir is only doing certain physical things to try and get me horny, which makes me even less horny, if that makes sense. I would like him to plan a little more in advance so his dick isn't the only one in charge.
The other is knife play. There have been a few instances where a scissor, or wire cutters, or some kind of sharp edge has come out in the past year or so and I've been very very intrigued by it. I am thinking more and more about a real blade, feeling it across my skin and such. The potential mindfuck of knowing he could harm me, but also knowing he probably won't. But he could... The submission in opening myself up to him, being vulnerable to him in that way. I don't know if I want to be cut, exactly, but the thrill of knowing it could happen... that is what is on my mind.
Thanks for the questions, Daisy!
Hi Lea,
ReplyDeleteI enjoyed reading your answers to this. I get needing the mental side of D/s, not just the physical dominance in the moment.
As for knife play, we have dabbled very lighting with this just a couple of times. I was blindfolded and Rick was alternating between the wheel and blade and I was initially occupied trying to discern one from the other. It didn't take long! lol. It's definitely a mind fuck. I wouldn't actually want to be cut either.
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Roz
Thanks, Roz. I think most people who do D/s long term, need more than just physical after awhile. Though the physical has its charms.
DeleteWe have a Wartenburg wheel, too. The first time it was used over 6 years ago, I completely freaked out!
"The physical without the mental seems so contrived to me " YES! There have been times where I have said to B "this feels like a game to me". He assures me it most definitely is NOT a game to him, but if life has distracted him from *us* and he wants to get us back on track I find he needs to get into my head a little bit first. Otherwise he is coming at an armored tank with a nerf bat.
ReplyDeleteCan't say knives are on my bucket list.LOL> We do have the W. wheel. Not a favourite of mine- though I know that is a different ball of wax.
willie
I like that idea, of getting into your head first. It defintiely seems like a game at times though, or just doing it for the sake of doing it or just to please me, which doesn't jive with me.
DeleteArmored tank with a nerf bat, LOLOLOL.
I can see the similarities in the Wartenburg Wheel and a knife. Pointy things pressing into skin. Though the wheel isn't likely to slice. I had such a fear of it afraid it WOULD slice me at first! Talking about that funnily enough is my highest viewed post on this blog, haha. Guess people have a thing for those wheels.
Thank you Lea! your answers were so interesting and gave us a great insight. Your braver than me with the knife play. But I do hope you get to experience it 🔪
ReplyDeleteThank you for reading, Daisy. I don't know how brave I really am. It's one thing to think about something, another to do it, right?!
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