Wednesday, June 12, 2013

We're Above the Norm!

I came across this article the other day:

Bondage Benefits: BDSM Practitioners Healthier Than 'Vanilla' People

BDSM is still listed in the DSM manual, but not as a disorder, but as a sexual fixation. I don't think BDSM should be listed in a manual for psychiatric disorders, but at least it doesn't list it as a full on disorder. That being said, science says overall, we're more well adjusted that "normal" people.

The article describes a study where BDSMers were compared to vanilla people. We were found to have better mental health overall. Even the lowest scoring BDSM cohort (submissives) scored higher than vanilla people!

This makes sense to me. In general, BDSM people seem to be much more open minded. There is much more open communication in BDSM relationships, and also a lot of self-reflection. Why wouldn't that make us more extroverted, conscientious, less neurotic and more able to handle rejection?


Sunday, June 09, 2013

About Sir - The Meme

I've seen this meme going around the internet, and wanted to join in. I was thinking of making a general post about my Sir anyway, so this fit right in! I sometimes wonder how you guys perceive him, and how that compares to what I know of him.

Let's try to level the score:

1. He’s sitting in front on the TV, what is on the screen?
 Netflix (I got him an account as a gift). Usually Anime, but sometimes older Sci-Fi stuff in the background as he does geeky things.

2. You’re out to eat, what kind of dressing does He get? 

3. The most striking thing about His physical appearance? 
Height. Or his beard. Actually, both combined (My preference is his lovely green eyes though).

4. You go out to eat and have a drink, what does He order? 
Usually something in the sandwich realm, and a Dr. Pepper.

5. Where did He go to high school? 
 Pike County, PA. I know the school, but won't list it here.

 6. What shoe size does He wear?
Eleven. I forgot at first, thought it was 13.

7. If He were to collect anything, what would it be? 
Star Wars memorabilia. And Transformers.

8. What is His favorite type of sandwich? 
Italian - no onions or yellow peppers

9. What is His favorite cereal? 
He's not picky. Stuff that's not so sugary.

10. What would He never wear? 

11. What is His favourite sports team?
 The Devils.

 12. Who did He vote for in the last election? 

13. What is something you do that He wishes you wouldn’t do? 
Belittle myself.

14. You bake a cake for His birthday, what kind? 
 Yellow cake with vanilla frosting. Because he's sooooo vanilla, lol.
Though, his preference is Ice Cream Cake... but I can't bake that.

15. What is His heritage? 
Hungarian... and some German.. He thinks.

16. Did He play sports in high school?
Roller hockey.

17. What could He spend hours doing? 
Playing Minecraft.

18. What is one unique talent He has? 
 He makes things out of chain mail. Actually, he makes the chain mail itself also!

 Sir, please correct me and elaborate if necessary!

Monday, June 03, 2013

Squeeze Some Boobies... For Science!

I just came across this piece of news yesterday, and had to share. A scientific study has shown that compression of the breasts can prevent malignant tissues from forming tumors.

Squeezing Breasts Stops Cancer!

Sir is delighted with this news. He says that he'll of course help out "in the name of science".

I wonder if breast bondage has similar results?

Sunday, June 02, 2013

Two Types of Rules

Since Sir has been enforcing his new rules, it got me to thinking on the types of rules that are set. I realized that there are two types of rules.

One type is given because the submissive needs it. The sub needs control in their life to function in general: getting to sleep on time, eating habits, activity schedule.

The other type of rules are given to help the submissive achieve service oriented goals that the dominant wishes. Behaviors, appealing dress, etc.

Right now, most of my rules are submissive-need based. Right now, I'm very overwhelmed, and I needed more micromanaging in my life as I spiraled out of control. I'm hoping that as time goes on, I can get myself back on track and the focus of our rules will become more want-oriented. I hope the rules that I'll follow will be more directed at Sir's wants of me. Dress, behaviors, and the like.

Of course there are blurry areas. For example, I had a rule on my attire: to always wear skirts or dresses. This is Sir's want, but it also dictates something very basic in my life. He's not been enforcing that rule as of yet, but I've tried as much as possible to keep to his dress code. I also must keep my hair long, and I've been actively growing it for two years.

I have 42 minutes of punishment still owed to Sir this week. I have gotten a little bit better in keeping myself in line, but still, 57 minutes this week out of line.

I have a lot of standing to do.

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