So, a few days ago I noticed that I was getting a lot of traffic coming from a Catholic Blog Directory. When I checked out the website, my blog was not linked. Unless maybe they have the wrong URL for one of their blogs? That would be unfortunate... and hilarious.
But it got me thinking about Christianity and Kink. I don't feel like they are mutually exclusive, though I get the impression that the majority of those that call themselves Christians around here do.
There's been one particular person that seems to enjoy putting nonsensical zealous rants on a lot of the BDSM blogs in the community, including mine. Telling us to repent, for the end is nigh, and all that jazz. Why do they assume that none of us already have our own relationships with God? And if kinksters are atheist or agnostic (like Sir is) that's their business. A weird blog comment isn't going to change that, I don't think. That's not how someone is going to be "saved". You can be christian and a kinkster, ugh!
I don't talk about it too much here, because that is not the focus of this blog. But I will today.
I am a confirmed Catholic. I came to it later in life, not being baptized until I was in my 20's (and I barely fit in that baptismal font, lemme tell ya!) Throwing aside the obvious "fornication before marriage issue" that is part of my relationship (and that's my sin to bear, no one else's), I don't feel that this lifestyle should necessarily be an affront to God. While I serve Sir, and I certainly place Sir above myself, I don't worship him. Sir is not above God. And he knows that.
A few of the kinksters we've met around here are church-going folks as well. They're good people. They do good works. So what if they like a little restraint in the bedroom, or to be bossed around? That's their business.
I've known an awful lot of pretty awful people that call themselves Christian. And I've met lots of wonderful people who don't have that kind of Spirituality. Belief or non-belief doesn't inherently make you a good person. Your actions and your choices do.
Then there's the biblical aspect regarding D/s of women serving their husbands. There are those out there that have a D/s lifestyle centered through their Christian faith. And it is valid and it works for them.
So for all you kinky angels out there, keep doing your thing!
But it got me thinking about Christianity and Kink. I don't feel like they are mutually exclusive, though I get the impression that the majority of those that call themselves Christians around here do.
There's been one particular person that seems to enjoy putting nonsensical zealous rants on a lot of the BDSM blogs in the community, including mine. Telling us to repent, for the end is nigh, and all that jazz. Why do they assume that none of us already have our own relationships with God? And if kinksters are atheist or agnostic (like Sir is) that's their business. A weird blog comment isn't going to change that, I don't think. That's not how someone is going to be "saved". You can be christian and a kinkster, ugh!
I don't talk about it too much here, because that is not the focus of this blog. But I will today.
I am a confirmed Catholic. I came to it later in life, not being baptized until I was in my 20's (and I barely fit in that baptismal font, lemme tell ya!) Throwing aside the obvious "fornication before marriage issue" that is part of my relationship (and that's my sin to bear, no one else's), I don't feel that this lifestyle should necessarily be an affront to God. While I serve Sir, and I certainly place Sir above myself, I don't worship him. Sir is not above God. And he knows that.
A few of the kinksters we've met around here are church-going folks as well. They're good people. They do good works. So what if they like a little restraint in the bedroom, or to be bossed around? That's their business.
I've known an awful lot of pretty awful people that call themselves Christian. And I've met lots of wonderful people who don't have that kind of Spirituality. Belief or non-belief doesn't inherently make you a good person. Your actions and your choices do.
Then there's the biblical aspect regarding D/s of women serving their husbands. There are those out there that have a D/s lifestyle centered through their Christian faith. And it is valid and it works for them.
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| This topic reminded me of Heaven's Lost Property. If you haven't watched it, I recommend it! |
So for all you kinky angels out there, keep doing your thing!
ah . a fellow catholic. ^5!
ReplyDeleteWoo! I think there are more of us than we realize, Fondles!
DeleteI know quite a few other kinky Christians too.
ReplyDeleteI would say that *most* of the kinksters I know (at least in real life), if they ascribe to a particular faith, are Christian, ancilla!
DeleteI'm Catholic too...well buffet Catholic, ya know pick and choose. Not ONCE did it ever cross my mind that kink was a sin ( ya know any 'worse' than spreading seed on barren ground- which clearly we take no issue with here). The loving union between two people should be the focus, not how you achieve that union- in my not so humble opinion. Hopefully goes without saying,provided no 'innocents' are affected.
ReplyDeleteI suppose I'm a buffet Catholic too, Wilma. I mean I understand certain principles. But I don't feel the guilt that so many seem to feel over certain things. Perhaps because I came to it later in life... the guilt wasn't ingrained in me.
DeleteI have never thought kink in and of itself was a sin, of course provided innocents weren't affected and everything was consensual. Though I did go through a lot of... shameful feelings, for lack of a better word, at first. But they weren't related to religion. Perhaps just to society as a whole.
Christian and kinky *puts hand up* 😊
ReplyDeleteThank you for this Lea you have made me feel not alone with said fornication issue that I too have to bare. It's been on my mind a lot your post has great timing.
Do you have an email?
Oh, Daisy, I am glad that you have realize you're not alone. Yes, I do have email. It's lyrena@live.com
DeleteFeel free to message me there, or on Fetlife, if you prefer.
My kids built missions in the fourth grade. I wonder if the church site latched onto your blog by mistake sub-missions thinking of the building rather than the action.
ReplyDeleteAmy
I never even thought of that, Amy. Maybe that was it! I feel bad for the person who realized their error and was brought here, though!
DeleteGreat post Lea, one doesn't exclude the other.
ReplyDeleteHugs
Roz
Thanks, Roz. I know right? They don't have to be mutually exclusive!
DeleteWe are 'Christians and kinky'. We have been practicing Dd, D/s for a year and a half now and at first we both struggled with the morality aspect of our decision.
ReplyDeleteWe are protestant souch of the teaching is centered around having an intimate relationship with God and puttinghim at the center of your life. I worried that I made my husband an idol by putting him at the center of my life. My husband worried that to become a disciplinarian to me was acting out of condemnation vs grace, contrary to the example of Jesus.
We have since come to terms with our concerns and there are some scriptuelres we have used to quiet them and justify our decision. Wether or not God wouod do the same, Idk. But as I've said before... this lifestyle brings us peace ( and much of the practice is biblical) so if it's wrong then I don't want to be right.
As long as you don't view your husband above God, I think it's fine. Service and worship are two different things, I think. You can serve God, and you can serve your husband, but only God is worshiped.
DeleteIt's an interesting perspective, the condemnation vs. grace. Perhaps you could see it more as your husband helping you to come back into grace?
I think of God as loving and wanting the best for all. It's a tough thing, trying to decipher a text written thousands of years ago for today's times!