Sir and I had a nice low-key weekend. Watched movies, cleaned the house, went food shopping, got haircuts (just a trim for me, of course). And the stylist listened, so my hair is healthy, but still very long! It's now to my butt, and I didn't want to compromise that progress.
Before my haircut, while still panicking, I chose to surreptitiously (I hope) remove my collar and tuck it into my purse. I'm not sure if anyone saw - not sure how visible it was before I removed my coat. And part of me wishes that I wouldn't care. That if they did see it - so what? We're far from my job, far from my family, and far from anyone whose negative opinion would affect my life.
But I still have that fear - what if it comes back to bite me in the ass?
So, I'm back to wearing my collar as of last week. And I guess this moment in the Hair Salon is what I get for being out of practice!
Oh dear that's not good. The older I get though the more I think....What's it matter what others think of me. I'm an individual and do things my way, if they don't like it tough. They can go take a flying leap off the highest building. LOL!
ReplyDeleteHugs Lindy
The older I get the less I care about others also... but the fear lies in if they have a direct capacity to make my life hell - i.e. sabotage my career etc. But maybe if I calculate that risk, it can be a baby step.
DeleteSometimes my boy use to wear his to the grocery store. It is undeniably a collar but most people didn't blink or notice. I think people are really paying as close attention to we think.
ReplyDeleteOh Lea haha!
ReplyDeleteI've forgot about mine many times before but only made it to the car until I realise!
Someone said to me that it isn't the first, and certainly won't be the last!
DeleteHi Lea, I found you :) Just popping in to say hi and to thank you for visiting me and leaving a comment. You know, I would guess they probably didn't see the collar before you removed it.
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Roz
Hi! I just found your blog and thought I would comment. Have you thought about getting a "day" collar? I started off with a couple cheap ones from Etsy but this past Dec, my Sir bought me a gorgeous 24/7 white gold day collar, for our 10th anniversary. Although I still wear "play-able" collars when it's playtime (My 24/7 collar can't be used for any kind of play, as it's more like a peice of jewellery), I wear my fancy one every other time of the day. I've recieved a lot of compliments for it, and I get a kick out of those "vanilla" people who think it's just a necklace and haven't any idea of the significance it has.
ReplyDeleteHi Nic. Thanks for commenting - I always appreciate the input.
DeleteI'm not sure what Sir thinks about a "day" collar. Do you essentially wear it all the time, except for playtime? Do you take it off to shower?
I am not sure how that works for you.
I know Sir has thought about a permanent collar; something metal, more discreet, and that I don't remove. I can shower with etc. But I do believe that idea is something he is saving for after we get married (in the next couple of years).
Right now I wear something we call the wristcollar 24/7, except to shower or wash dishes, etc. It's a leather bracelet. I wear it in the house with my "regular" collar, but I also wear it in public.
Sir reads here so I'll see what his thoughts are!
Thank you.
My Master bought me a beautiful collar that I wear all the time. It is a gold so I can shower with it and sleep with it on. I really don't want to take it off. :). I get a lot of compliments on it from my vanilla friends who just think it's a pretty necklace. We also plan on getting married in about 3 years. Honestly, though, I basically treat it as if it were a wedding ring, and we consider being in a collared Master/slave relationship is as deep a commitment as marriage, if not deeper.
ReplyDeleteThat sounds lovely. I think Sir is saving a collar like that for when we get married. We're thinking probably 2 years. : )
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