When "Not Caring" is the Right Thing to Do - Happy New Year!

Sir: "I know you say the big collar is huge and cumbersome, but I kind of don't care."

 ♡.

❤!!!

I absolutely love that he said that a few days ago. And it's not that he doesn't care... I know he cares. A lot. Evidence for this is the fact that I haven't been wearing that collar, or any collar for the past week as my neck heals.

(I am thinking and hoping that I will be well enough for it to return tomorrow, at least during the day).

Sir is not an unfeeling dick. But he knows that my discomfort of the collar is not relevant. It is not life-threatening, it's not a limit, and I can live with it. Because he knows this, my arguments are irrelevant and he doesn't care. I will wear the collar.

This is the side of Sir that I love. The side of Sir that I have been missing.

Hopefully tomorrow, for the start of the new year, the collar will be able to return. We can start our New Year off right!

I Got a Pain in my Neck for Christmas (And It's NOT Sir!!)

Hope you've all had a Merry Christmas and a lovely holiday season.

Sir and I had a good day today. His dad drove down from about 3 hours away; that meant a lot. He took us to dinner, then he stayed over and we made him breakfast in the morning. After he left, Sir and I had a nice low-key day at home. We put on the Yule Log, exchanged gifts and just hung around.

Sir definitely spoiled me this year. We set a budget, but he ignored it, haha. He's also been taking care of me. A few days ago, I either strained my neck, or pinched a nerve or something and I've been in a lot of pain. Consequently, the collar has been off for the past few days, as it exacerbates the already excruciating situation. I miss it and I want to heal so we can get back to normal around here.

Tomorrow morning, we're calling the doctor. Initially I was giving it a couple of days to see if it would start healing, but it is not, and I just can't do this. I can't move my head, I can't sleep (hence why I'm up in the living room when Sir's asleep in b ed). I can't focus really.

Despite all that, Sir planned a really nice evening for us. He prepared a charcuterie board with sausages, cheeses, mustard, crackers, and popcorn. We were going to drink a little, enjoy the board, and watch a movie. I couldn't drink, since I've been popping pain medicine, but he enjoyed a little. His effort means so much to me; he really tried to make it special. Also I never had Hickory Farms products that are popular this time of year, which surprised him and he wanted to correct that.

We watched Secretary. Funny; we both got each other this movie for Christmas this year; so now we have two copies, haha. Sir mentioned offhand a bit ago that he had never seen it before, which boggled my mind. He enjoyed it and wants to unpack his thoughts tomorrow.

Tomorrow afternoon we're supposed to go see The Last Jedi. I hope I can get into the doctor really early so we don't have to cancel the movie (and that I feel decent enough to go).

Happy Holidays!

Getting used to the BIG collar

So, ever since I lost my wristcollar at the end of October, Sir has been having me wear the BIG collar. It is huge and cumbersome and uncomfortable.

Though, I can see the aesthetic appeal from Sir's point of view.

I thought I would never get used to it each and every day. And while I'm not still fully used to it (sleeping in it is difficult), I was forced to notice that it is becoming part of me.

Yesterday, when I went to run errands, I got my coat on and went to put on my scarf. It took me a few moments to figure out why my scarf wasn't going on correctly - my collar.

If it wasn't so cold out that I need winter clothing, thus making me realize it was there, I absolutely would have left the house wearing my big ol' monster collar.

I guess that is a step in the right direction, eh?

Better When Together?

 Do you ever find yourself going a little bit off the rails when you are away from your Dom?

I'm not talking about anything extreme, but just little things.

I'd been away for the Thanksgiving Holiday, and then to help some friends/family during the next week.

It was during this time that I made a decision to meet up with a friend. I didn't consult Sir. I didn't ask what he thought about it, I simply made the plan.

Sir was not mad or anything; we don't have any rules about that sort of thing, though I typically do talk to him and ask what he thinks about these things.

When I got home, I wanted to sign up for a conference that is coming up. I didn't though, because I am waiting to see what Sir thinks about it.

Why is it that I thought to consult him about one thing, but not the other?

I think it is because of proximity. I was away before, but now I am home and he is here.

Does this ever happen to you?

When Are You Most "On Your Game?"

It's been just over three weeks since I've found myself with an abundance of free time.

I asked Sir if he thought that I was personally, a better submissive to him in general. when I am not constantly at work.

Without even having to think, he replied "Yes".

I agree with him. I am so much more on my game when I have this time off. I am more focused on him, and focused on service. I have more time to blog, to read blogs, and to think about the right things. I have time and energy to get up in the mornings, make his breakfast, lunch, and assist him out the door for the day. I have the energy and presence of mind to stop what I am doing when he arrives home, and help him undress, or bring him a drink/snack.

Energy. That's a big thing Sir brought up that I didn't initially think about. I am not burning my candle at both ends, getting up before dawn, commuting over 3 hours a day, and dealing with all my other responsibilities, too. I am more rested, less cranky (overall), and more present.

While I don't think that this necessarily means that all stay-at-home submissives are better than working submissives, I wonder about that dynamic individually.

Do you think that you would be a better submissive if you were a stay-at-home person? Or if you are a stay-at-home person, is it better now that you are? Or has it always been this way? Do you feel you're better off working? Full time, or part-time? And why?

For us, Sir has frequently mentioned that he thinks it would best if I worked part-time. I'd still be a full-time submissive, but I am the type of person that is better when I have some type of work outside the home. But by not having a FULL workweek, that could free up time and energy for Sir.

What do you think?