tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2193995482072739335.post4283790583926412391..comments2023-10-03T13:11:50.704-04:00Comments on Submissive Missions: How Much of My Feelings Should I Let Through?Leahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17213567388808206135noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2193995482072739335.post-49052120168670528322012-10-30T15:44:51.556-04:002012-10-30T15:44:51.556-04:00Thinking about you, hoping you are well!Thinking about you, hoping you are well!Master Dream's precious treasurehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17459695398110281594noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2193995482072739335.post-19559520644828015222012-10-15T09:30:35.427-04:002012-10-15T09:30:35.427-04:00Hi Lea,
i feel for you. While i think it is nob...Hi Lea,<br /><br /><br />i feel for you. While i think it is noble of you to want to always be joyful with your Dom, it is very important that He know what's going on with you. He may not be able to help you, nor do you actually want or need Him to fix things, but communication is key to any relationship. True, some conversations might be uncomfortable, but He is your Dom and needs to know important things about your mind, body and soul.<br /><br /><br />Now then...some suggestions:<br /><br /><br />SirW and i have various SAFEWORDS for different situations. Of course there are the typical SAFEWORDS that one uses when playing (Red, Yellow, Green), but We also have an emotional SAFEWORD, Without abusing it, if i am stressed out and emotional and don't feel like i can maintain my composure as His submissive, then i call Our emotional SAFEWORD. This tells Him that i am not myself and need a moment to recover.<br /><br /><br />My suggestion would be to communicate your feelings via an email. This allows you to communicate what's going on and why you are out of sorts. This is also good because it allows Him to learn what you are going through without it being live and Him wanting to hang up on you (in a manner of speaking). It also gives Him a chance to think about what you've communicated. Sometimes, We need to give them time to digest what is being communicated.<br /><br />i want to encourage you to be more open about how you feel your D/s relationship is going. Doms are not mind readers. It is not topping from the bottom to communicate how you feel about your relationship. If you keep how you are feeling to yourself, you will begin to build resentment toward Him. If you are open, He can choose to adjust or not.<br /><br /><br />The cycle of life promises that things change, just as Winter never fails to turn into Spring, but in most cases it requires you to take action. Our environment is a direct reflection of our own life, like a mirror or our shadow...you would not expect your mirror image or shadow to move (change) until you move, right? The funny thing is that you might find that your Dom may also need to vent His frustrations or thoughts on how your D/s relationship is going too. In any case, communication is key, so it is up to you to take action first and see what reaction He will have.<br /><br /><br />i will send you some positive prayers/vibrations and trust you will get through this.<br /><br /><br />~hugs~<br /><br /><br />kitten{SirW}<br />kitten for Sirhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16952627090365553593noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2193995482072739335.post-13932117115119744282012-10-07T21:16:07.054-04:002012-10-07T21:16:07.054-04:00I know this is a huge stereotype, but I find that ...I know this is a huge stereotype, but I find that a lot of men have trouble just listening and letting women vent. They want to be fixers. If there isn't a solution to offer for the problem, I don't think they know what to do. Empathy is not high on their list. Complaining about your job? "Why don't you just get a different job if this one makes you so unhappy?" he says. No, that's not what I'm saying. I'm just frustrated and want someone to hug me and say "I'm sorry you're feeling frustrated." <br /><br />I have a close male friend who I've had to stop sharing some things with because of how he reacts to it, leaving both of us sometimes annoyed. I hope you and he can work this out and he can learn to be a bit more understanding.Leahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08935712285136696225noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2193995482072739335.post-76732368077068450252012-10-05T08:56:03.382-04:002012-10-05T08:56:03.382-04:00I don't think that mentioning things like that...I don't think that mentioning things like that is topping from the bottom. Sometimes we have to tell them these things or they don't know and can't help us.<br /><br />On a side note, putting a very generous amount of cheap white vinegar in when you you wash your clothing should help get rid of the cat pee smell. Sometimes you have to do it more than once or let them soak a bit, but it's the only thing I have found that can really get rid of that awful odor!<br /><br />I hope that things slow down and even out soon.Stormhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12613795542678253943noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2193995482072739335.post-67247073845445208522012-10-05T02:42:09.956-04:002012-10-05T02:42:09.956-04:00Do you have a space in your relationship where you...Do you have a space in your relationship where you can talk about concerns, etc without the D/s restricting what you say? It might be a useful thing to exercise as it sounds like you have a few issues that could really do with airing with him. I don't think of it as topping at the bottom, more of an emotional 'red' (or yellow?). Something needs fixing and as your Dom he needs to know that. It sounds like these are all fixable things, too, so it would be a shame to let them fester and spoil your enjoyment of each other. I've found with my Sir that some of our most uncomfortable conversations have been the most beneficial to our moving forward together.<br /><br />I hope things get better with the life stresses too.<br /><br />J.Jhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12962778185039217944noreply@blogger.com